Well, Aditya Chopra’s ‘Rab ne bana de jodi’ is a case in point. The beautiful Taani is all set to marry her paramour, who, unfortunately dies in a bus accident and she ends up marrying the simple, not-so-good-looking Surinder Sahni. Different as chalk and cheese, the two succumb to accidental matrimony.
Move over reel life. Here’s a piece of irrefutable real-life evidence. My own cousin was set to marry her fiancé until she called off the engagement and eventually got married to someone else. She is blissfully happy today. She was destined to marry my jiju!
Another cousin tied the knot last year. One year into marriage and she is already contemplating a divorce. Now this makes me wonder- Are ALL marriages made in heaven?
There are certain aspects that demand attention before walking down the aisle; before taking the matrimonial plunge! I’m sure my cousin gave it enough thought before she embarked on the road to matrimony. Perhaps, not ALL marriages are made in heaven!
My best friend was slated to marry her boyfriend until the sissy dumped her. Today, her parents are frantically looking up matrimonial websites. Was she dumped because her marriage was already fixed in heaven?
“More marriages are breaking up now than ever before. There are more divorce applications than marriage registrations. There are so many stuck in rotten marriages because they are bound by kids or other reasons best known to them. There are so many who feign happiness in unhappy marriages,” opined a friend recently.
In such a scenario, does the age-old marriages-are-made-in-heaven concept hold true?
Are ALL marriages made in heaven? If yes, why do such marriages disintegrate?
Swathi . sorry . Swati ,If all marriages are made in heaven , then 80 % of the guys wont get married at all .lol……
Heaven doesnt always provide u with the right guy / girl . They just make things happen which leads up to marriage , and its upto u to make the marriage work….
I guess its time , girls change “their parameters and criteria” of men to whom they should get married.
Rajnikanth , once said , Marry the person who loves u , rather than the person whom u love !!!
I guess that says it all !
When marriages work out well, let the credit go to heaven…
for those that dont work well, put the blame on parents/friends/other human beings…hehehehe
A marriage isn’t made in heaven, but between the 2 people involved in it.
I think a lot of people still live in their respective la-la lands (rather than the real world) and when it comes time to put in the effort that is required to make the marriage work, quite a few people hesitate or don’t put in the desired effort because they’re still recovering from the fact that the script from their la-la land went awry.
“Marriages are made in heaven” was just an expression made by someone who was in a blissful state of mind on a sunny day in Philadelphia. Or Chennai.
He wrote that line, and it proved to be so fucking crisp and viral, so feel-good that it became as famous as Newton’s gravity and Einstein’s E=MC2. (How to type squares and cubes in comment boxes, blogger?)
Marriages are lotteries.
Although unlike state-wide-maha-bumper-super lotteries where one in thousands or millions wins something, here in marriage lotteries, at least half the population wins, half out of the remaining half live though rotten relationships and remaining opt for a divorce.
Love marriages are more prone to breakups (that’s entirely a personal observation.) Isn’t it the increase in the number love-marriages that seems to result in more divorces? Who fell in love prior to 1960? Very few.
Back then, was the ‘d’ word as common ‘c’ word? Chips?
When two people are in love, they enjoy goodmorning smss, outings without parents’ consent, the whole adventure of corner seats and popcorn fights, traveling together, oh stay by my side, and – as long as I am there, and – you are the one who matters, can’t live, can’t breathe, just be there for me…just be there…
And one fine evening, they are knotted, and without their knowledge, slowly the bollywood theme starts fading. Still worse, few days later they realize that they are just having mandatory sex. Three times a week. Four? Because of Sundays?
And just helping each other with breakfast and holiday tours, trying to add excitement, to create it out of nowhere.
They realize that their partners are just like other people – lacking. Not some Gothic gods.
In Surinder Sahni marriages (I have not seen the movie yet, I mean arrange marriages), at least that bubble is not there, and thus it doesn’t break!
Very rare are divorces in arranged marriages. And although I may sound old-schoolish or immaturish here, success of your marriage has a lot to do with the kind of person you are. I believe so. Any statistical data doesn’t apply to you if you are god fearing, temple going, beggar helping, not selfish (beyond a limit), not into all those things that very, very bad people do
, you won’t have to go through horrible times.
Well, that’s just me and my not-so-grand exposure to mankind.
Nice thing you brought up. Looking forward to reading people’s responses. Cheers!
Correction: Who fell in love prior to 1960?
Read: How many people had love marriages prior to that?
Where is heaven?
I mean, seriously this is just a cliché as Jagjit rightly put it above, It’s just another expression. So don’t take it too seriously.
But certainly, it is the most important relationship in your life. Because this is the relationship that gives you the option to choose. Some people exercise it while some let their experienced parents to do so. Whether it subsequently works or not depends on the two individuals involved more than anything else.
i kinda find it hard to say anything on this topic.. but yeah… another valid point raised by you… kudos to you!
have a great week ahead
I think Lack of knowing that person! Lack of knowing yourself as well and all that you expect and need from your partner!
I believe in marriages being made in heaven I need that and I think I also have that for when I am reading to take that leap..and love that only that person can make sense out of!!
NE.
more than marriages i think the concept is of relationships being made in heaven … it’s like in palmistry you say tht there will be x number of girls in a guys life and u assume the most prominent one to be the one indicating marriage .. which for all you know might not be the case .. rishtey kahi bhi bane ho .. at the end of the day you have to fulfill them …
I would say, let your parents decide on such things. Sometimes ignorance turns out to be bliss!
Destination Infinity
.. i found the post funny and am rofling, and then the comments so far r interesting too…
i think marriages are made in heaven.. and whoever said that was right. Mark the point he never guaranteed them to workout.
I have never been married
so dont knw and cant describe it as noone can describe death as they have not seen it.
My stern belief everything works out if one wish too.. one thing i am sure of is even if i marry my folks decision its going to work out for sure… secondly if both people love n respect the family they are about to join in just like they do their own… m sure its a double effort to make it work.
n well who defined heaven… “Us/them/they/We” huh noone came back from heaven to tell d truth its all abstract… and i think i saw heaven in nainital.. alsaka.. montana… dehradun
n why m a rofling… will not tell u
.. call me watever idiot/dork/ass/dumb/clown/stupid
Hehe marriage made in heaven?? I don’t believe in tht.
If u believe in destiny, then certianly our partners are decided in heaven,but that doesnt mean that we will liove happily ever after..its our karma that will decide our fate.
Marriage is like any other job, where one has to put the best foot forward and do the best to make it work,and i always believe that none of the marriage is perfect but it is made perfect by the hard work…….arrange marriages are better because here one gets the support of families and parents match values, families etc, but love marriage is better because here couple sees their own compatibility….but here the onus is on the couple to make it work even if there are constraints…oh:0 its a very complicated issue and I may keep on boring u:)
oi, you have got an award from me.
marriage n heaven r two words that dont go well together at all
so i guess that kinda answers ur question
It’s complicated, with no ‘one’ answer.
I second mayz comment
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what makes you think that a marriage shouldn’t be broken ? Why are we all thinking that a marriage should necessarily till we die ? If things go wrong (after years, it might and we are all human beings after all) we should not continue to live in the misery. Better to be single than being in such miseries. Not because many marriages break in a society we can come to conclusion that the society is going bad. I would rather say that such divorce rates proves that woman have a say and when things go wrong people do not hesitate to end things…I see it as a good sign !
you may meet the perfect person, just the way u define what your perfect person is gonna be like…in looks, habits, behaviour and yet if you don’t work on ure relationship its gonna be a nasty life together.
What goes wrong is that you don’t try and understand the other person, you don’t know their needs and how they work…and then the other person might do the same…and then the two of u r screwed…
i have seen this happen, to myself, i’ve seen this happen with others…and i’ve seen people who are happy…the happy ones understand each other the unhappy ones…never became a ‘couple’