Life Does Not Suck!
I’ve been blog-hopping and I am really aghast at the way people have been raving and ranting…. crying foul about their personal/professional woes…. And I guess Xyz was right when he told me that people who cry and crib 24*7 are big time losers and nothing more.
Given that blogging is subjective and highly personal, ranting once in a while is completely justified. Even I have done that. But common, we all know for a fact that NOBODY LIKES A CHRONIC COMPLAINER.
A heart breaking traumatic past, a recent bitter break-up and the backlash that follows, single in the city, cash crunch, health problems, fucked up work life, screwed up parent-child relationship, uncaring boyfriend, an abusive past, alcoholic father, kids from broken homes, less pay, unreasonable boss and the many ‘why me’ sagas…
For how long can someone sympathize with you? Does it solve your problem?
Agreed ‘blog’ is ‘personal territory’, your personal space and you can shoot your mouth off. It is therapeutic and it is definitely a stress buster- an emotional outlet. It may be a support system to many…
But why not invest all that energy into a productive task by taking the right action instead of mourning and whining and sulking?
Why not focus on solutions and use your time constructively instead of writing venomous, distasteful posts? Instead of seeking attention here…Just how does it massage a bruised ego? Don’t tell me sympathetic oh baby-oh-honey-chill dude comments lift you out of depression! Only ACTION helps!
We all have our Cyclops to battle; our Herculean share of problems. The rich-the poor, married-unmarried, committed-single, straight-homosexual! No one is problem-free; no one is stress-free.
Look at those surviving cancer…look at the physically disabled…the mentally challenged… young kids working as child laborers…forget eating at swanky restaurants, look at those who don’t have basic money to afford a one-time decent meal…even these hapless people manage to smile… Why can’t we!!!
I am sure WE ALL are better off!
It’s just the right attitude that matters! You can sit back and mope forever or move on with your life. The choice is yours! Moreover, every time you complain or discuss your illness or your many problems- you are only attracting more of it into your life.
There’s a difference between venting out frustration/ releasing bottled-up emotions and constantly complaining.
CHRONIC COMPLAINERS, GET A LIFE! Nobody enjoys your crap. Stop wallowing in self pity!
P-S: I am not hitting out on ‘a’ particular blogger. Just an observation! I am sorry if I’ve offended anyone but I couldn’t hold back.
Cheers!
We think alike, Swats. It gets my goat big time when someone choose to complain all the time. But then again, whilst the world does comprise optimists and pessimists, one needs to respect the other's outlook at all times so long as it is not personally aimed at hurting you – even tho it might sometimes be difficult to understand it.
I now find that I am actively moving to blogs where the authors are focussed on being positive and can actually blog beyond themselves at times.
@ REBEL –> You ARE NOT schizophrenic. Lekin nice try. I don't think you are pessimistic/ negative in your outlook; on the contrary, I have you down as a positive guy.
Wah…
What a firing post.
True, I agree.
But I disagree about SRK
jara sabra to kar mere yaar…
Bournvita ?
haha,.. good that i dont have a ranting page.. wud anyways try my hand in ranting too..
chronic complainer.. i was little bit worried cos i dint read that sentence correctly
can’t agree more…
Only way to get out of a problem is to stop treating it as one
I hate u… I hate u.. I hate u
Ur very mean
R u really this insensitive??
I can’t believe ur mocking at poor people n calling then looser how can you.. be so stoned?
Cmon Swats..hota hai…
V all react in different ways and have a complaining ‘why me’ saga
I understand a cribing hearts pain n anger…its natural ya..
U know some people r sensitive n highly emotional n they give it their all in a relationship
And wen the others walk over them, its heart breaking n traumatic to say the least
But hating or abusing someone is not a solution always but still its ok to do tht
V all grow n learn frm our past experiences n relationships, so will people like me who cry crib complain all the time:)
U take care and stop mocking my heart broken friends
meanie beanie
Whoot Whoot Whoot u spoke my heart here…
VINZ
Wow! I loved the way u summarized this post..
Yeah tht negative vibe is infectious.. it is likely to rub off on u
Crib gang- birds of a feather flock together
“the writers get compliments on their ‘cribbing’ posts and they feel very complacent…” LOL
REBS
First things first- I don’t think ur a chronic complainer..i didn’t blogroll u for nothing..
Tht mail wasn’t a ‘send to all’ email…I hold u in high esteem and feel fortunate for having found a friend in u..u speak ur mind and ur sense of humour is just out of the world…
ur comments make me smile..ur posts r very very interesting..In fact I can relate to u in so many ways..dare u take a cue frm this…
Natkhat Rebu I am extremely fondddddddd of u..do u doubt this?? I want to have unlimited access to all ur blogs..…get this straight in ur head
Ur a wonderful guy and u really rock…and even i luv the way u r
CESS
Blog hopping is not regularly visiting blogs..its just some random blogs tht id accessed tht triggered this post..
I agree thre r those who r better off than us..my point is y compare urself with them n feel miserable abt urself n make others arnd u miserable..look at the under privileged and feel better abt urself..
I am not saying I haven’t cribbed or complained but id be disgusted with myself if I find myself doing it all the time..
“Plus are u really sure that people who have an abusive past or alcoholic father will talk about that in their blog?” OF COURSE!
Same category??? It’s a mixed bag of complaints
I haven’t visited ur blog yet..so I don’t know wht uve written abt..
SHRAV
I cant hold back if I have something to say..even if it ruffles some feathers..even if it means rubbing ppl the wrong way..even if some ppl stop visiting my blog..stop commenting
STRAY
Im glad v think alike
I am not disrespecting the other persons outlook or demeaning anybody thru this post..this post is not to sat tht I am blissfully happy all the time..tht I don’t feel sad…tht I don’t crib..tht I don’t get the blues…tht im forever jumping with joy..
But like u said, it gets on my nerves wen ppl r FOREVER talking abt how wretched they r, hw miserable they feel..yeh nahi hai, who nahi hai…
aise bhi itna dukh hai is world mein, y add to it!
I agree with ur take on rebel
HOBO
Im done vit srk..can v discuss ‘this’ post?
No bournvita no coffee
CHRIZ
hheheehhehe…ur a wonderful chronic writer Chrisy
u tickle my funny bone
it’s a delight to visit ur page
SANDEEP
Yeah
AEVI
)))i like this
LOL LOL LOL
spoke ur heart..i must thank u..plz add to it
Jispe guzre, woh hi jaane…
I totally agree with you. I was introduced to the blog world in 2006 and during my two years of blogging in Paris, I found that many people needed some appreciation from others and wrote things to get some positive feedback and if possible some compliments…and once I got to Hong Kong (2 years now) and I just left this world because of that and last summer I got back because (well, I am not going to tell that here! hahahaha !) and what you observe here is exactly I observed too (no hint on any particular blogger, again!) and there are some bloggers who just talk about their private life and their love life (be it bf or gf)…I just checking their blog regularly. I ain’t a shrink (actually I need one! hahahaha) so, I just don’t go there…
The proof of what I said above can be seen in the number of comments for my posts. My recent posts have 10-15 comments (including my replies sometimes). If you see my older posts, there will be around 60-70 comments and some even have around 90 something. Most of the time, I realized that people comment back in your blog just because you commented in their blog. That is what happened to me in 2006. Now, I stopped commenting on blogs when I really don’t feel like…so I lost readers (well, should I really call them “readers” of my blog?!?)
ooh ! for once, I didn’t deviate from the real topic ! bravo, prash !
Now, that being said, Chronic complainer = French ! hahahahahaha (just kidding, no actually, it is a cliche…but kinda true, even French agree!)
that was IN THE FACE! and yeah I loved it…hehehe
the cribbing quotient has gone up to alarming levels in recent times. Picturising yourself as a person who’s suffering a lot is sure to earn lot of readers who cry with you and comfort you..as u said, its ok once in a while..But constant cribbing means, you are doing a great disservice to the Lord who put u here..
and the point..attracting negative energy by cribbing…ever read “the secret”?
ok…i guess the comment section on this post is becoming like an overly optimistic robin sharma self-help book…
so i will see you on your next post swats…
(i still dont understand what problem do ppl have with negative energy or pessimism…i mean even i hate agony aunts, but there is a certain fun in cribbing abt everything…obv if done in the right way…)
self-victimisation is how some people live their lives…and then there are others who are depressingly optimistic always..and the latter irritate me more somehow…
i have a serious problem with people who say ‘i can do it’ when they don’t have the vaguest of ideas of what they r talking abt…optimism is linked to overconfidence acc to me…it is good in small amounts, but too much optimism makes me freak out…
maybe instead of prash, I have digressed from the issue now..
but what the hell, i am in sales.
HOBO
I so agree with u lol
PRASH
Ok don’t tell me tht here..lol..
I don’t really feel obligated 2 comment..if a post doesn’t interest me I refrain frm commenting than just comment for the heck of it..its like disrespecting the author of the particular blog..
Yeah ive read a few of ur previous posts..90 plus is a huge no…im glad u stopped commenting even at the cost of losing out on ur readers.. if a blog post doesn’t interest u, its ur choice 2 comment or not comment even if tht person regularly comments in ur blog..
I prefer having 5 genuine readers than 50 who just comment for the heck of it..or who expect u 2 reply to their chronic bullshit
Yeah fr once u did not deviate..lol
PRAVEEN
My friends think im very blunt and in-ur-face as u said
Personal, sensational dukhi posts really earn u readers and the BRP- blog rating point (of ur blog) is likely to shoot up..lol
Constant cribbing is not only disrespecting God but disrespecting urself..
I recommend THE SECRET to everyone..its a life transforming book..
REBS
overly optimistic robin sharma self-help book LOL..
my next post…lol…im so scared, rebel will scrutinize all my posts nw..
Rebs ppl don’t hv a problem with pessimism, ppl hv a problem vit chronic pessimists.. wud u like to be in company of sum1 who always bitches, cribs and criticizes?? Tell me honestly..
Do u enjoy such company?? Do u like being surrounded by such ppl..wht do YOU gain out of it??
Its better 2 b depressingly optimistic than perpetually depressed
Optimism may b over confidence in a few cases but over-confidence is better than zero confidence, than no-confidence at all..
Hi Swats,
First time at your blog and loved your post.I think the chronic complainers are more of attention craving creatures who want some mollycoddling from fellow bloggers.I want some of these to see the brighter side of life and realize that life is the same for all of us, just that we respond more appropriately.
You write well.
keep blogging.:)
actually it depends on how you crib yaar….i cant stand the grandmother-type cribbing…or like how the mother keeps cribbing abt her daughter-in-law….
))
but i like the 2yr-old kid like cribbing…there is a lot of difference between the two, and i find the latter extreeeemely cute
And NOOOOOO….overconfidence is not at all better than zero confidence…i can stand ppl with zero confidence…but i JUST cant tolerate overconfident ppl….there is no bigger turn-off than a person blabbering abt himself and his own achievements…
aaah:) It’s as simple as that! When you write something on your blog about what your heart feels on a certain topic, they have the same right as well!!
P.S: No hard feelings… That’s what I felt about the entire issue!
SNEHA
Thnx for visiting my blog
I completely agree with ur comment
Do visit again
REBS
Cribbing occasionally is allrite..
Yeah thre is a diff between the two..i agree
I cant stand braggarts either but I still feel overconfi is better than no confi
SHRAV
Yeah no hard feelings
wow Swats–u r just like me, Even if I loose something I can whine about it long or any othe rproblem , I cant stay morose for long. Even when I had this major operation in this July, I kept my whole family cheerful even in the hospital, so i completely agree with u, as I wrote in one of my posts also..
life is 90% HOW U TAKE IT.
But sometimes some people are so depressed that its better to pour it out.
RENU
i so agree with u
and im so proud to have u as my friend..have fun..get bac soooon
Belated Birthday wishes! May all your wishes come true!
SRI
thnx
do visit my page again
SRI
thnx
do visit my page again
i am visiting ur blog the first time today.
and it so happens i get to criticize or rather point out a few things in ur blog
and its coincidental to this post.
first of all ur blog is amazing.. gr8 quality posts u got there.
and a nice blog design too , but it needs a few modifications to optimize it..
for a 5 month old blog , getting 4200 visits is way too good.
there are a few things that I can suggest to improve it to a far greater extent.probably i’ll mail u the details if u need.my id is hkmurali@gmail.com
check out my blog too
Hey dude that was a good and a real one. there is no point in blaming others …. its our life and self mastery is life mastery do come up with good stuff like this
Cheers
Do visit my blog:
http://www.colorkanavugal.blogspot.com
MURALI
Thnx a ton
do email me
SIVARAM
welcome to my blog
Ahhh…Seems like I’ve literally copied the thoughts on this post and pasted them on mine..